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Trauma & The Nervous System - Part 3
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Milo grazing at sun down
Milo grazing at sun down
We have just had the most amazing time again on our first Pathway to Harmony Course this year! And the sun was out 4 days in a row to warm our hearts, spirits and endevours.
It is lovely to see the 'feel', the 'movement' and the 'understanding' grow like budding plants. Those days are always full of clearing, assessing, catalizing and transforming energies and a great time for closness, sharing and 'holding space' for each other.
Amongst other endevours, we were blessed with much exploration focusing on how we can help regulate the Nervous System of a horse, thanks to our newest member of the herd 'Milo' who was regularly taking centre stage.

Trauma is not failure.
Trauma is part of working with a living, feeling horse — one with a nervous system, a body, and a history.
Moments will happen. A spook. Resistance. Confusion. Overwhelm.
But what shapes your horse long-term is not the moment itself…It is what happens afterwards.

When trauma is not supported and resolved, the body remembers. Not as a story — but as a state.

A slightly higher level of tension, a system quicker to react, a horse that finds it harder to settle once activated.
In a natural environment, stress usually has a beginning and an end  — they react, move, and return to balance.
In domestic settings, this process is often interrupted. Pressure continues. The horse is contained and more often than not the session ends while the system is still elevated. This translates into lingering experience - trauma.

Over time, you may notice bigger or faster reactions, anticipation or bracing, difficulty settling, patterns that don’t change with more pressure...
This is where what happens after trauma becomes everything.
Take a step back, don't keep 'pushing through' - now is the time to support the nervous system of the horse to find its way back to safety.

And it begins with you.
Pause, breath and soften your own system first.

Then reduce demand, allow space and allow the horse to find his way back to himself, so he is able to think and work things through in his mind as well as his body.
Once there, gently reintroduce connection, by standing quietly together, or walking together without expectation, choose something simple and familiar you have experienced in harmony together before.

You are not fixing the moment; you are allowing the system to settle. And this is where change happens.

When activation is consistently followed by settling, the horse begins to respond differently.
Not because they are being controlled — but because they no longer need to stay in a heightened state.
The pattern shifts:
Activation is followed by settling rather than more pressure.

This is how safety is felt, trust emerges and connection as well as harmony grows.

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